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A transplanted New Yorker living gluten-free in Southern California, except for key lime pie at the Galley.

How to cultivate courage and hone your voice in 2021

First you’ve got to deal with all the noise out there — how to make 5,000 a month writing content! How to find your voice! How to kiss your day job goodbye and be a badass blogger! And then there’s the noise in your head — hasn’t everything already been done, and done better than I can do it?? This sh*t is intimidating!

A good place to start is to ask yourself, what are your writing goals? Are you writing for therapeutic reasons, or do you want to put yourself out there, but haven’t quite figured out how? Have you…

How Will Smith’s Instagram changed my life

There are divorces out there that are copacetic and peaceful — a mutual parting of ways in which you both love and respect each other but you honor that the marriage is just not working anymore.

Gwyneth and Chris consciously uncoupled around the same time as my ex and I did at the beginning of 2015, but unfortunately, our consciously uncoupling more closely resembled an R-rated War of the Roses than their family-friendly kumbaya.

In my divorce, there were five stages. Pain, sadness, rage, rage…and rage. The stages were like a record where one song would play one night, and…

And how you can make this democracy work for you

Blah, blah, blog” was my friend’s response in 2010 when I started my first blog. Published writers were pissed at this stupid new medium that was canceling legitimate journalism and ruining the traditional publishing industry.

But blogging did not go the way of hoverboards and Google Glass. Blogging is only gaining traction because it is a way for writers to control their own destiny and take a piece of that gig economy pie.

The gig economy is booming not only because there are fewer traditional jobs to be had, but…

Alpha-Males-R-Us is getting old

The superficial answer to the question posed in the headline is because — haven’t we all had an assfull of all three of them already?

And hey, I’ve even been guilty of sprinkling their names into articles and books myself.

Yes we all know that Warren Buffett lives in the same fairly modest home he’s lived in for decades and reads five hours a day.

How awesome that Jeff Bezos is buying Dodger Stadium and turning it into a Whole Foods 365 store (that part is made up) and yes, Elon Musk is still a staggeringly…

I thought we were doomed as a couple

After working for three months with my writing partner, we accidentally slept together.

We were writing a spec tv pilot about a bi-coastal couple who met and tried to make it work, even though one lived in New York and one lived in L.A. It was sort of Mad About You meets Green Acres.

After that we wrote a spec script for the Simpsons to try to get an agent. It was based on my idea of paying homage to Indecent Proposal where a millionaire offers a million dollars to sleep with Marge and Homer is ecstatic.

We landed an…

The onesie that launched a thousand swipes on Tinder

I don’t have a walk-in closet. I don't even have a walk-in apartment. Lockdown has been a cozy scene of me bonding with my couch, writing, Zooming, and eating dark chocolate turbinado sea-salt coated Trader Joe’s almonds.

I had a Private Benjamin moment last week when I was desperate for normal things: shopping at Bloomingdale’s! Going out to lunch! Hoarding muffins in my purse at Souplantation! Face-planting in the potato salad after a rough night out.

Alas. I live in Los Angeles where every restaurant is closed down, and every third person is COVID + So, no soup for me…

Wisdom from Oscar and Felix on life, love, and carrying on

After my husband and I split up in 2015, I began looking for work as a television writer. When interviewing for a half-hour comedy, the show runners asked me to name my favorite show of all time. This was a no brainer: The Odd Couple.

When they asked me why it was my favorite, I responded that to me, The Odd Couple is a love story. Here are these two guys whose “happy endings” didn’t work out; they both divorced. But instead of sitting alone in their apartments getting depressed, they move in together and form a whole new social…

6 tips from one life-changing book to achieve your goals and live smarter

Smart people do dumb things. I count myself among them. If you’ve been there too, it’s OK.

The heroes we root for in movies are not the perfect people — the smug Biffs, Chads, and pretty Mean Girls of the world. They’re perfectly unrelatable.

We root for the underdog, the flawed person who overcomes some major shit to become an unbelievable badass (see Erin Brokovich, Matthew McConahey in Dallas Buyer’s Club, and Tom Cruise in every movie he has ever starred in.)

Chances are you’ve got a shiny new list of goals you’d like to achieve in the new year…

Reflections on 30 years in La La Land, and why I stay

I accidentally moved to Los Angeles from New York in 1990. Most New Yorkers tell people at backyard parties in Silverlake they’ll be moving back home soon. But they stay. They stay for the excellent tacos, the 72 and sunny (Steve Martin got that one right in L.A. Story) and they stay because they secretly know someday they will be discovered.

In my case, I had a dose of that early on when the first script I wrote randomly landed me a meeting with Norman Lear. That was it. I was smitten with La La Land. I was gonna be…

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